A marriage prayer - 7 Ways to Respect Your Husband
Lord, I pray that we will not only seek You, but seek to serve You, in the way that we live and the way that we love.
And let the wife see that she respects her husband. That's
what Paul wrote in the second half of Ephesians 5:33. Respect is something that
I believe has diminished throughout the years. So many marriages begin well and
end poorly because men and women are not properly trained in how to treat one
another. God has specific roles for the husband and the wife and when we stay
within those roles we have happy marriages and good family lives. Respect is
something that should be mutual between all members of the family, but for this
article I being also a wife want to give some helpful hints for wives on how to
respect their husband.
Respect His Leadership
"It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him."
God gave you your husband as the leader in your home. This
means that he is not only the spiritual leader: he is the one who makes decisions. Women are ill-equipped to make large decisions; we are far too
emotional for that big responsibility. Your part in the decision process could
be to help him be the leader by providing him with information that will aid in
decision-making. And remember that just because you provided information, this
does not husband will consider that
information. He chooses what to use in the decision process; a wise husband
will ask for his wife's advice. When he chooses not to consider your
information and/or advice let him take responsibility for the decision, be it
good or bad. Never, ever say "I told you so" or words to that effect
when a decision has gone bad. When he makes good decisions thank him for taking
that burden. Remember to avoid getting advice from other males in your life
such as your pastor, friend or even your brother. Take a look at what the Bible
says about your husband's role as a leader and head of the wife.
1 Corinthians 11:3 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband. and the head of Christ is God.
Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body and is himself its Saviour. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
Respect His Provision
This is a Biblical principle that has been overlooked in our
modern world. In the day of the two-income family, we have come to depend upon
the wife's income to provide for the needs of the family. This ought not to be.
Don't misunderstand; I realize that sometimes it is necessary for a woman to
work outside of the home, in the case where the husband is physically unable.
However, when your husband is able to provide for the family - let him do it!
Here is the Biblical standard on the husband as the provider:
Genesis 3:17-20 And to Adam he said, "Because you have listened to the voice of your wife and have eaten of the tree of which I commanded you, 'You shall not eat of it,' cursed is the ground because of you; in pain you shall eat of it all the days of your life; thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you; and you shall eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your face you shall eat bread, till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; for you are dust, and to dust you shall return."
1 Timothy 5:8 But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
Respect His Maleness
Accept the fact that God made you the weaker vessel, This is
one of those things that has taken me many years to do, I am a strong willed
woman and many times I have tried to do things that I needed not to do. I now
am thankful that my husband carries my heavy packages and opens the doors for
me. He is being what God has made him to be, my protector - not only for safely
sake but for my own health and well-being, You were created for him, as his
helper. Let your husband be the strong one and when he is, praise him for it
and thank God for him. Let him open that pickle jar; even if you loosened it
for him. Here are some Bible verses for this hint:
Genesis 2:18 Then the Lord God said. "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him"
1 Corinthians 11:9 Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.
1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honour to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
Respect as an Attitude
There are times when the husband is not respectful to the
wife. This does not give you license to be disrespectful. You cannot control
his actions, but you can control your
reactions. You see, respect is not only seen in your actions (as a verb) but it
is also seen in your attitude (as a noun). When you show an attitude of respect
toward your husband he will think twice about the way he is treating you. Love
him, even when he is unlovely. Serve him, even when he seems not to appreciate
your service. Listen to him, even when you may not understand what he is
talking about. Be attentive to his physical needs, even when you are tired. God
will bless you and your marriage when you remember to have a respectful
attitude. Bible guidelines for this are:
Romans 12:21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Philippians 2:3-4 (KJV) Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.
Philippians 4:13 (KJV) I can do all things through Christ which strengthened me.
1 Peter 3:1 Likewise wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives.
Respect His Reputation
Don't air your dirty laundry. When you are in the company of
others you should never be saying things that tear your husband down. Instead
you should be saying only good about him. Brag on him! Be faithful to him in
thought, word and deed. This includes what you say and do in front of the
children. Teach them to respect their
Daddy, he is their protector too and they should see him as a hero. The Bible
is loaded with this concept, here are a few verses:
Proverbs 12:7 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.
Proverb 31: 11-12 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.
Romans 14:19 Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.
Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
Respect His Home
Make your house a home, no matter what the living
circumstance. Make it comfortable and clean. Make the bed. Clean up the dirty
dishes. Keep up with the laundry. Your husband works hard and he deserves a
cozy home after a hard day. Get up before your husband and the children - set
the tone for the day. When you have things in order your day will run smoother
for your entire household. Teach the children to clean up after themselves and
how to do daily and weekly chores. All this should be done without grumbling or
complaining.
Proverbs 14:1 The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.
Proverbs 31:15 She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens.
Philippians 2:14 Do all things without grumbling or questioning.
Titus 2:4-5 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
Respect Yourself; Work on Being The Best Wife
Being a wife doesn't just happen. I am thankful that many
years ago I had a group of very godly wives praying for me when I was a
career-bound wife and mom. I believe to this day that they "prayed"
me home! They were not perfect women, not am I. The thing that I want to
encourage you in is that there are other women out there that have been where
you are, They are the women who successfully manage a home and may even have a
bushel of children that they are raising as well. Learn from them. Ask them how
they do it. See if there is a lady's Bible study group in your church that you
can join. Get some Christian girlfriends if you haven't already done that.
Above all, get daily in the Word. Pull your resources together so that you are
able to have an organized time with the Lord each day. Personal Spiritual
growth is essential for your relationship with God and ultimately with your
husband. Redeem the time, spend time doing things that you know will please the
Lord.
Respect Your Husband In 7 Ways
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Pamela Rose Williams
Pamela Rose Williams is a wife, mom and grand mom.
She is a Christian freelance writer and editor
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